Radio personality and serial entrepreneur, Toke Makinwa, has asked people to stop blaming people’s partner for offences made by the person.
In a series of tweets made on Thursday, March 25, 2021 she explained that whoever committed an offence in a relationship should be focused on, rather than the blames people often shift to the spouse.
Toke opposed the narrative that “men will disgrace you”, she said instead, people should say “men will disgrace themselves” because the man’s guilt is not the woman’s to bear.
She tweeted: “I know we all love a good hot, pipping, steaming tea but can we try to cultivate the habit of not bashing women for the wrongs of their partners, if a woman gets cheated on by her husband/partner resist the urge to blame her for his wrong doing and no, it’s no reflection on her.
“Stop saying “men will disgrace you”, that is alluding and accepting shame for another’s crime. Instead say “men will disgrace themselves”.
“Adults should carry their cross without the distribution of shame, the woman was not in the mix, leave her out of the insults.”
